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Be Salafi with Your Family, Just Like You Are Salafi with the Brothers
بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
Indeed our religion has taught us the best of character and mannerisms, and the Prophet Muhammad (may the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) without a doubt displayed exemplary character to his wives, and children. It is for this reason that if a person claims to be Salafi, he should be diligent in displaying this character and mannerism amongst those who are closest to him; his family.
We ask Allah to allow us to be true followers of the Salaf al Saaleh.
Brief reminder to my brothers and sisters:
The Salaf used to say:
The best of the speech is that which is short and straight to the point.
With this in mind, I will only mention in this reminder a short hadeeth, and a short statement of one of the Imam’s of his time. In this hadeeth and statement, myself and my brothers should realize an area of family life which we have greatly neglected! May Allah forgive us all and guide us to that which is better.
The Prophet (May the peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ ، وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي
“The best of you is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family.” (Jame’ al Tirmidhee)
The Statement of Imam al Showqanee (died 1255) He stated:
فترى الرجل إذا لقي أهله كان أسوأ الناس أخلاقاً وأشجعهم نفساً وأقلهم خيراً، وإذا لقي غير الأهل من الأجانب لانت عريكته وانبسطت أخلاقه وجادت نفسه، وكثر خيره، ولا شك أن من كان كذلك فهو محروم التوفيق، زائغ عن سواء الطريق، نسأل الله السلامة!
“You find a man, if he comes into contact with his family, he displays the worst of character, he is prideful, and very little good is seen from him. But if he meets with other people, his disposition is very gentle, his character is very soft, he is very giving, and he displays much good. There is no doubt, this type of individual is from those who have been prevented from good and success, and he is one who has deviated from the correct path. We ask Allah for protection!
Source: Nal al Awtaar (2/246)
9th Muharam 1435 | Nov. 12, 2013